[What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love] Not engaging in crimes against myself

The greatest service I can offer is...not engaging in crimes against
myself. Iyanla Vanzant

You cannot be useful to yourself, others or God if you run yourself ragged.
Most of us believe that in order to be useful, helpful or in service, we
must give our all, all of the time. We become YES people. We say yes when
we are tired. Yes when we are busy doing other things. We say yes when we
know there is no way we can take on anything else. You may believe that in
order to be worthy of the love, admiration or respect of others, you must
always say yes. What you may not understand is that there are times when
saying yes causes you to make a necessary sacrifices.

There is a passage in "A Course in Miracles" that says, "Giving of yourself
to the point of sacrifice makes the other person a thief!" When you allow
others to take what you need, what you have earned, what you deserve, you
are making a sacrifice. When you sacrifice, you are not giving freely. Nor
are you serving others when you give to your detriment. In addition, when
you give to your own detriment, you become resentful. You resent yourself
and you resent the one who has received. Resentment is a clear-cut path to
anger and unworthiness.

In order to serve others, support others, give to others, you must first be
able to support and give to yourself. You must be willing to share your
overflow, not your necessities. This is called self-support, self-care and
self-love.

Until today, you may not have realized that you have allowed others to be
involved in a crime against you. You may have allowed them to support you
in sacrificing yourself and believing that you were helping or serving
them. Just for today, don't be a yes person! Take care of yourself. Don't
give what you don't have or what you need. Be self-supporting and
self-loving enough to say no.

Today I am devoted to not making unnecessary sacrifices! Today I am willing
to say no! ~~ Iyanla Vanzant, "Until Today"

Peace

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Unconditional Self Love on 11/26/2016 03:32:00 pm