Change. Radical Acceptance. Choices

The blessing is that things change. The tragedy is that things change. As our pal, Pema, says: Things come together and things fall apart.  Chela Davidson

Walking on the beach today - a Saturday ritual that started in 2023 as a way of healing and grounding myself during the last year - I was thinking about change.

One year ago I was literally scared to drive on the road that led to the beach. It is a narrow, long and windy road with cliffs on one side and dense forest on the other. The two lanes seem so close together and people are either in a hurry, impatient or know the roads so well that they overtake on the narrow road and even around corners.

For me to go to that particular beach, I would wait for someone who was going on the odd Sunday and tag along, the challenge with that approach was it would usually be a one off and I would miss the sunrise- which is spectacular to see on one of the cliffs leading towards the beach and on the beach itself.

In 2023, I was going through a very rough patch, I wanted to find a way to ground and heal myself, a place to think and see beauty to remind myself that there are other things in the world apart from the problems that I seemed to be wallowing in.. I decided that I would face the fear and drive to the beach. Now one year later, I have been going consistently every Saturday morning, catching the beautiful sunrise and even seeing the leather back turtles lay eggs, and so many other wonders of a morning at the beach.

Changes, some sucked - I resisted change so much so that I became physically ill. It is true- what you resist will persist. Some changes happened and I had zero control over it, This bothered me no end - taught me radical acceptance - kicking and screaming into that mindset. It does make a difference having a mindset that somethings are just to learn about surrendering, letting go and trusting the process..

And some changes were seamless, some were beautiful.

The changes that sucked I wanted to change those - ironically so

The changes I loved I did not want them to change.

Isn't that what life is about? Change? Radical Acceptance? Choices?

There is a duality in it all - everything is useful and served a purpose

Peace and Blessings