[What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love] You end up with a little more courage

The average human being will go to any lengths to avoid the experience of
being hurt, being abandoned, or being rejected. Hurt takes on a totally different perspective when you are afraid of it. In order to protect themselves there are people who will not indulge in any
personal contact or closeness. Some of them will go so far as to strike first, hurting others before they
get hurt. When you are afraid to be hurt, you can spend a better part of your
lifetime on the location for hurt, expecting to be hurt. There is something you must remember What you Expect you usually get. Iyanla Vanzant

So I was doing my daily morning reading and I came across the quote above
from Iyanla and I had a "penny dropping moment" or some would say an A-HA
moment. You get what you expect - that's big! and even bigger living life to avoid
hurt, or rejection, or in fact, how and what we believe are hurt and
rejection, really limits and puts a different spin on situations. The discomfort, the stories we make up to avoid the uncomfortable
situations at times puts limits on what we can and will do, or may go. So
the choice is courage over discomfort. Many times, and part of that choice
of courage, is taking risks of doing the thing, meeting the person, opening
up your heart, flying across the world to take a job, going to an
interview, asking someone for something and so on and so on. And just to
avoid being hurt, rejected or abandoned we chose the safe route, one of
what we know and at the same time wondering what might have been, we
eventually bury the feelings but feelings buried alive don't die, they
fester and layers and layers of them added on start causing illness,
resentment and other types of build up So, do the thing, meet the person, fly where you want to fly, tell that guy
that he's scorching hot, make the call. What's the worst that can happen?
You end up where you started, with a little more courage And, know this, all things are lessons that God would have us learn Peace

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Unconditional Self Love on 12/21/2015 12:10:00 pm