[What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love] Are you a settler?

It takes more tan diamonds to woo meIt takes more than money to move me It takes more than material things It takes more than cars to get me where I need to goDon't stop the flow -
Jill Scott

Someone asked me today about advice about men. Well I must admit that I was
stumped by the question. I joked "Hey, maybe you didn't notice that I am
manless" We had a hearty laugh and then the silence that followed when you know you just devalued your own
self and the other person agreed and felt awkward!

We started discussing settling and why we settle, all sorts of reasons came
up, not being lonely, age, society, mistaking "it" for love, parent's
pressure, rituals, society, time running out yadda yadda yadda And then the silence came again OMG!! we really do that to ourselves? We settle!!! Bam- hit us straight to
the face We settle when there is no self love - plain and simple Make excuses Accept bad behavior Accept lies Settle

We settle when we start a relationship as a crutch Make excuses Lose patience Want to show the world that we can get a partner Want to show our friends that we are happy Settle

We settle when our partner tells us it's complicated wait a bit - until the kids are grown until they do their exams until the partner is stronger to handle it until the mortgage is paid Settle

Are you a settler? And if you are? ask yourself why Peace!

-- Posted By Blogger to What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to
Unconditional Self Love on 5/17/2016 11:44:00 am