Radical Acceptance Must Come with Letting Go
Letting go actually decreases self-centeredness and allows love to come forward much more unconditionally and with greater strength Yung Pueblo
I learned the true meaning of radical acceptance after what I considered the biggest betrayal of my life. It wasn’t just about the act itself—it was the shattering of trust, and the painful realization that some things cannot be undone.
For a long time, I wrestled with the why. Why did they do it? Why didn’t I see it coming? Why couldn’t they just choose differently? I exhausted myself trying to understand, to negotiate, to fix what was never mine to fix.
Radical Acceptance Was the First Step
Radical acceptance wasn’t passive resignation—it was the conscious decision to stop fighting reality. I had to accept:
I could not change them. Their choices, their actions, their justifications—none of it was within my control.
I had ignored red flags. There was no shame in admitting that; it simply meant I had trusted when I shouldn’t have.
The past would not rewrite itself. No amount of anger, grief, or bargaining would undo what happened.
It hurt. But in that hurt was also relief—because acceptance meant I could stop pouring energy into a battle I was never meant to win.
Letting Go Is the Necessary Next Step
Acceptance alone isn’t freedom. Letting go is where the real work begins. And it’s not a one-time act—it’s a daily practice.
For me, letting go looked like:
Releasing the fantasy of closure. Some stories don’t end with apologies or justice.
Choosing myself, even when it felt lonely. Boundaries became non-negotiable.
Redirecting my energy. What was once consumed by anger became fuel for growth.
The Liberation on the Other Side
Radical acceptance doesn’t mean what happened was okay. It means you stop letting it define you. Letting go doesn’t mean forgetting—it means you stop carrying the weight of someone else’s choices.
And when you do? There’s space—for peace, for new trust, for a life that isn’t anchored to the past.
It’s not easy. But it’s worth it.
Have you ever had to radically accept something you couldn’t change? How did you let go?
Peace and Blessings