[What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love] We make unhealthy compromises because....
Be daring, be different, be anything that will assert integrity of purpose
and imaginative vision against the play-it-safers..." -- Cecil Beaton,
photographer
There are two kinds of compromise: the kind that heals you by expanding you
-- it's the healthy kind that stems from real love and grace. And because
it usually brings some delight with it, then doesn't feel much like a
compromise after all. And then there's the kind of compromise that bruises
your soul -- the not-so-healthy kind that is driven by varying degrees of
desperation and fear.
We make unhealthy compromises for three reasons:
- Fear that we won't get what we really want.
- Fear that we won't get what we really want.
- Fear that we won't get what we really want.
Fear that we don't get what we really want keeps us stuck! I wake up every
day and give thanks in advance for slaying the fear, for feeling the fear
and doing it anyway! And I give thanks in advance because I know fear will
come up and in my mind giving thanks in advance is a declaration that I
will indeed find a way to do what it is I am supposed to do despite me
feeling like wetting my pants, or feeling silly or losing a friend or
pissing off my family, whatever it is! I know that the fear is not real and
facing it will only make me like myself even more.
I'm getting better at it! Asking for what I want and feeling the fear and
doing it anyway! Practice makes masters.
I talk to myself into doing it, whatever "it" is and then when it's done
sometimes all hell breaks loose ( most times in my mind) and I expect the
unexpected and handle it! Whatever happens its all good because I either
learn from it or I am happy!
Today for example at the boxing gym, they sent me to warm up with the
biggest heaviest boxer in the gym, the guy is a machine. Come on he says,
let's go! I was walking slowly behind him like I was about to go to an
electric chair, he rubbed his hands together "You will like this!) Fear was
gripping me by the throat! So do I compromise? Na! I was all in, fear and
all
I must admit although tough it was the best warm up I have had since
starting boxing! Who knew????
There are other things I have done in the grips of fear as well, some
worked out how I wanted to and some didn't but I did it and have no regrets
and will learn from it for the future! Most times the fear comes up
with "people stuff". Relationships, whatever kind, are our biggest teachers!
I intend to keep practicing because life is a splendid ride and there is no
formula, no right and wrong way. Why fear a feeling? It will pass, trust
me, this too will pass!
Peace!
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Posted By Blogger to What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to
Unconditional Self Love on 3/04/2015 01:23:00 pm